The Simps and Their Misconception of Love

What is love?

To different people, it can be a multitude of things. It can be the bond between a parent and child, the platonic friendship between buddies, or a budding romance in a relationship.

The simps who fawn over unrealistically attainable people show a different kind of love, albeit a more obsessive and sexual form of it. It is more of an attraction than love, and therein lies a simp's misconception of what love truly is.

According to Healthline, attraction can be categorized into five groups: Emotional, Romantic, Sexual, Physical, and Aesthetic. A simp's attraction for someone generally falls under Sexual or Physical attraction. They see them as objects of lust or obsess over their beauty and end up committing to a parasocial relationship with them.

Parasocials are one-sided relationships. On one side, there's the simp; on the other, there's usually a celebrity, streamer, or influencer. These relationships are highly toxic. Simps often place their celebrity crushes on pedestals and worship them to the point where they would willingly spend tens of thousands of dollars just to be noticed. Unfortunately, the people on the other side of such relationships don't even know these simps exist.

So why do simps "love" these unattainable crushes? For simps, love is when their crush validates their existence. A mere "shoutout" from these celebrities is enough to drive simps crazy, making them obsess over them even more. But that is not love, that is merely their misconception of it. And it's not the celebrities who are on the losing end of such parasocial interactions, but the simps who end up giving away their life savings to someone who gives them nothing in return, but unrequited attention.

To better understand the situation of simps, let's delve deeper into simping vs. loving.

The Difference Between Loving and Simping

Normally, simping is fine—anyone can simp for anyone. Boyfriends simping on their girlfriends, wives simping on their husbands—it's a normal part of relationships. But there's a fine line between showing love and affection for someone who feels the same way versus loving someone and getting nothing in return.

Loving a Person

It is normal to do everything for someone when you love them. You have a reason to do so, since you have a shared bond that compels you to take care of each other. You give them attention, time, and effort, making them feel special.

Love is a genuine feeling. It develops from the connection that you and your partner share, even going beyond just skin-deep. Personality, attitude, and vibe matter more than physical appearances. And the beauty of this kind of affectionate love is its reciprocity.

Simping for Someone

Let's clear the air for a second. Simping is generally fine, but only to an extent. Just like everything in life, it has to be done in moderation. But we want to talk about the people who do it to extremes, and give you an understanding of why it's a problem.

You can simp for someone while you love them, but you can't just love someone you are simping for—it doesn't work that way. That isn't love, but obsession. This is the most common problem you'd see from simps—they would fall for someone they don't even know on a deeper level, nor have common ground for a connection.

Simping doesn't usually go both ways; it's a one-sided affair. A simp would spend copious amounts of cash only for their crush to not give back the same kind of effort. What they fail to realize is the toxicity of such a parasocial relationship.

It's Such an Unhealthy Lifestyle

A simp's yearning for their crush's attention is usually for their lustful or sexual desires. They play the nice guy card, hoping for a chance to be intimate with their crush. They do so by spending as much money and energy to appease their crush.

Simping should be done in moderation. If done in extremes, the simp is risking their livelihood for the sake of getting their crush's attention and validation. Donating a small sum is acceptable, but simps often become addicted to this form of attention-seeking behavior, and they find themselves in a financial mess. This kind of behavior is usually seen in people with abandonment issues, daddy issues, or even abuse.

But even so, it shouldn't be an excuse to validate their reckless, or better yet, impulsive actions. There have been too many cases of men simping too hard for women, that they eventually ruined their lives by spending more than they can afford to lose just for the sake of acknowledging their presence.

You can see examples of parasocial relationships on live streaming sites like Twitch, or subscription-based sites like OnlyFans, or even on dating sites like the old Craigslist personal ads.

What Simping Does to a Man

Although simping isn't reserved for people who engage in total parasocial relationships, there have been cases of men simping for women in a one-sided and parasitic relationship. There was one where an American traveled to Colombia because he found a Colombian woman on Craigslist Colombia.

Let's call him “Kenny.” Kenny went to Colombia and met up with the girl he found online. He's a 35-year-old man who has been in the real estate industry for quite some time. You could say he is loaded with cash—enough to keep him afloat in his retirement. But his success had a caveat—he was lonely. He was awkward around women.

Kenny's a good guy, but the thing with him is that he's been a simp since his teen years. When he finally matched with a Colombian woman online, his heart fluttered like crazy because he never expected a reply from her. They talked, and Kenny was ecstatic to meet her. But this is where his story turned upside down.

He stayed in Colombia for a month because he promised her they'd go on an expensive vacation together. Kenny was so stuck up on her that he didn't care how much he was spending on her, even during their dates. He didn't know it, but she was using him for his money, and poor Kenny never realized until it was too late.

It was becoming apparent to him that the expenses were getting worse by the day. He asked her if she could tone down on the spending. But the only thing he got was a threat—that she would not see him ever again. Distraught, Kenny pleaded for her and continued to spend on her.

Kenny eventually received a call from his bank, informing him that his credit card was maxed out. He told the woman what happened, and as expected, she wasn't happy at all. The woman told him that if he can't sustain her needs, then he might as well leave.

What's sad is that Kenny has spent at least a hundred thousand dollars on her and her exquisite lifestyle. And even then, he claims that they've never been intimate. It took a phone call from the bank to make him realize that what he's done was extremely dangerous.

He simped too hard for a woman online, finally got to date her, but ended up in a parasitic relationship with her.

Don't be That Simp

Simping is highly discouraged. It is not love, it is toxic obsession. Not only is it toxic due to its one-sided nature, but it is also a threat to your livelihood. Donating money for the sake of another's attention can be highly addictive to some people, especially when they get the validation they want. It's okay to admire from afar, but when you take it to extremes and go the simp route, stop! You are better off meeting genuine women who want the same thing as you—love.

Colombian Woman is the alternative you are looking for. With hundreds of beautiful women's profiles, you don't have to worry about getting into a one-sided parasocial relationship with any of them because all they want is a meaningful connection that will potentially lead to marriage.

Don't be a simp; be a potential husband to a loving Colombian wife.